Ilona and Daniel originally contacted me during the Spring of 2018. Having worked closely with them over the last two years to bring their vision of a very beautiful wedding to life, it came as a devastating blow to us all when we established that their wedding could not take place on 26th May 2020, resulting in their perfect day being postponed…. for a second time!
I AM EXTREMELY GRATEFUL TO ILONA AND DANIEL FOR ALLOWING ME TO SHARE THEIR STORY TODAY, ON WHAT WOULD HAVE BEEN THEIR WEDDING DAY
We have been planning our wedding for what feels like forever. When it finally happens, it will be so long awaited!
From the outset, one of our main concerns was the weather. We researched the topic extensively, even reaching out to TV Weather Man, John Hammond for advice! We originally chose a date in late May on the basis that we believed this gave us the best chance of good weather. You always take a gamble with the weather. We know it’s something we can’t control and there is always a risk, but at least ours was a calculated one.
When we realised we had no choice other than to postpone our wedding, our venue was already fully booked at the same time next year, so we were forced to consider alternative dates which resulted in us choosing a new date in April. We just hope the April showers fall around our day and not on it!
The wedding we have planned has a U.K destination wedding vibe, with friends and family travelling from various countries around the world in order to share it with us at The Deer Park Country House in Devon. Ultimately, our intention is to spend as much time as possible enjoying the venue, particularly the idyllic outdoor spaces, surrounded by the people we love.
“I don’t think I have unravelled all the emotions yet.” Said Daniel. “We have been together for 15 years and I really want to marry Ilona. I can’t wait to refer to her as my wife. To get to this stage, where we should be getting married only for everything to be delayed by another year makes me feel so sad.”
“We have been through such a lot together. The last few years in particular have been an emotional roller coaster what with buying and setting up our home and changing careers, whilst dealing with lots of other things. We actually began wedding planning in 2018 with the intention of getting married within twelve months. We spent a great deal of time and effort looking for the perfect venue which would meet all of our criteria which included accommodating our four legged friends, Benji and Tammy.
Sadly, shortly after finding The Deer Park and setting our original wedding date, we suffered the devastating loss of Benji which resulted in us re-evaluating our plans and delaying everything until 2020 in order to give us the time and space we needed to grieve. So this isn’t the first time we have had to postpone. Even though I know it is nobody’s fault, I am sorry that Ilona has to wait yet another year.”
“Meanwhile, with Helen’s support, we fully intend to look forward and enjoy the remainder of the planning. My priority is to focus on my physical health and fitness. Having another eleven months to prepare for the wedding gives me another chance to reach certain goals. In some way, I’m grateful for that. I’ll also have more headspace to invest in working on my speech. Having the additional time enables us to pace ourselves as we fine tune some of the details.”
“For us, the wedding is a big punctuation mark in our story.” Said llona. “It marks the beginning of a new chapter. It is very significant because we want to do things in the right order; get the house, get married and then perhaps consider starting a family. And we were so close to putting another HUGE, important tick in a box.”
The most important thing for us is sharing our wedding day and being able to celebrate with all of our closest family members and friends.
It’s surprising how you get so emotionally attached to a date. For two years, our wedding was taking place on 26 May 2020. That sequence of numbers featured everywhere; on the Save the date, the wedding invitation and the wedding website. Although our wedding is not taking place today, the date still feels like an important milestone to us. In the future, when we tell our story to our children and grand children, we’ll talk about how we acknowledged the passing of it during lock down. We will be treating ourselves to a day of indulgence. Some guilt free chill out time together should do just the trick!
NINE WAYS TO CELEBRATE YOUR ORIGINAL WEDDING DATE AT HOME
- Write meaningful notes to each other, perhaps exchanging promises ‘until we say I do’. Feel free to Contact Raspberry Toast for a ‘Little Love Note’ pack.
- Crack open a bottle of fizz and celebrate the moment, when you would have been saying ‘I do.’
- Listen to the soundtrack of your wedding day, If you are still in need of inspiration, here’s a perfect wedding day play-list by DJ Mark Green.
- Shake your signature cocktails, and invite close friends and family members to a virtual drinks party.
- Arrange a photo-shoot with your Wedding Photographer, (socially distanced, of course).
- Cook and eat your wedding breakfast.
- Order a bouquet containing your wedding flowers or burn a scented candle to emulate a particular scent.
- Order a cake box containing samples of the flavours which would have been in your wedding cake.
- Dance! Practise your first dance steps at home.
I AM HERE TO HELP
For many people, wedding planning is a stressful undertaking, even at the best of times.
You need to have a high tolerance to stressful situations to be able to cope with the impact of a global pandemic in the midst of your wedding plans. It will almost certainly diminish your resilience and optimism. With this in mind, I would like to offer an hour of my time to any couple needing advice or guidance. This offer comes with absolutely no obligation and is entirely free of charge. Whatever stage of the wedding planning process you are at and whatever you choose to devote the time to is up to you. I am happy to share my wedding planning knowledge and experience with couples who would appreciate some support during these challenging times.
You are welcome to call me on 07561 107888 or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.